Lets do it girl…..

Hello everyone,

Very happy morning to all

wishing you all a very happy women’s day

This is my first blog post, as a beginner, I am so excited to write this post for you all. I don’t know how well I am going to make you understand about the things which I have in my mind but let’s DO IT, GIRL… 

As today is the international women’s day, I thought of posting my first blog post about “PURSUING THE DREAM OVER OBSTACLES.-WOMEN’S COMBAT ZONE”

Let me tell you 2 things that hold back the women’s potential to the max extent, that you have already known, most of you might have experienced that too… But have you ever think how much it is capable of changing the lives of young girls. those are the most common things, yet plays a major role.

When we talk about girl’s freedom, passion about dreams, pursuing, chasing their dreams, then we ought to talk about the OBSTACLES that stands in front of them so that we can understand the depth of the hardship and the struggles that they have to go through in order to get their dreams true……

I want to mention one thing, I’m not blaming all the parents and I know not all the parents are thinking like the way what I have mentioned below but most of the parents do. In my childhood and even now I’m seeing the difference in the upbringing of both girls and boys. the ideas and the thoughts that they put in their children’s mind are very different just because they are biologically different. From the childhood itself they started preaching this mantra that you are a girl why are you doing this and that, anyway one day you will be going to another house and doing the things they say. “so here and now itself enjoy the life”, this line strongly get into their mind and they started looking for little happiness and forget about their individuality. how pathetic is this right?

The concept of marriage. there are a number of problems exists out there other than this .but those are from outside environments, girls can handle. This is entirely different. For girls, Marriage has been interwoven with their dreams and goals since the bronze age.

Parents think Girls should get married in their early 20’s. For me, the reason behind this concept is really bizarre. one simple example is assuming things like what if some catastrophic things happens to them before their daughter get married. then who will take care of her if they are no more kind of things.even some parents blackmail their children to get married. (stop the education, no need to dreams, who cares baby) they will trust some stranger guy and believe that he could take care of their daughter very much but they have not believed in their own daughter that she could take of herself very well than anyone else. here is where dominance starts…

But we cannot help it. Again I’m saying not all the parents are like that.but it might be one reason, that they were grown up hearing the tales that portraying girls and women are weaker ones compared to men, bashing the women who raised the voice against their’s dictators . all those stories moulded them and made them believe that women cannot live independently which is totally a claptrap.

my doubt is, (again not all the parents ) by urging her for marriage life before she finds about herself and before she finds out what she wants to become or before she realizes the truth about the real world. what are you gonna get from this? tell me one good thing out of it. you people straight away shoving her into the marriage life and you people convince her that getting married is the only ultimate destiny for the girls and the only way to be protected and totally ignoring her dreams about her life and career. you made her life dependent on someone else. you have already destroyed her dreams in the name of marriage. ask yourself these questions, what if that guy doesn’t respect your daughter and, what if that guy totally treat her like the piece of shit, what if she can’t fight back that brutality or hypothetically what if he passes away? are these kind of things defines your happy married life? Then who will be the caretaker of the daughter? As per your theory (those parents theory), you will become disappear or invisible suddenly out of no clues, that is why you get your daughter married soon, now as per my doubt, the groom is not a well-behaved guy or hypothetically he passed away.

so who will take care of her now? if you people are not even let her learn how to take of herself then how can you claim that you are good parents. stop being stereotypical parents. No one could take the responsibility of looking after someone all the time. One must learn to take care of themselves. be it a girl or boy, its mandatory for both of them.

So stop preaching about the concept of marriage in their young age and make them learn about self-defence, world news, state news, about arts, music, dance, trekking, games and more importantly give more attention to the things that love to do. it will help them to learn more about themselves and it will give a clear vision about what they want and help to build their career.

Out of box thinking is very rare in case of parents..yet some parents think and give respect to their children’s dreams…I’m not saying getting married at the early ’20s is bad.if the girl wants to, then go ahead, if she is interested in pursuing her dreams, let her do that, allowing her to do what she likes is also one of the duties of parents..

Girls can conquer the world, they can achieve anything even if the whole world is against them but all they need is parents support. your support will make them as warriors. your role is as important as the air to the earth.

As a parent, if u respect your girl’s dreams and passion, they will become the most powerful and the strongest women. parents have to sow the seed of confident, passion, goals into them.

There is one saying, “give a girl the right shoes, she can conquer the world…it’s the sole parent’s responsibility to help their children to accomplish their goals.

GIRLS, your future is all about pursuing your dreams and make them true…your future will definitely not be good by becoming someone’s wife when you have dreams to chase…you were not born to serve some strange guy and his family who doesn’t know the value and power of women.

Always make sure that you have your own life before becoming someone’s wife… because
” INDIVIDUALITY” matters a lot.

here come another obstacles………..

our society plays a main role, (SOCIETY = neighbours, relatives, people around you) because people nowadays forget the fact that they are the part of this society. Again not all of them but many do…(just for your information). very interestingly as soon as they get done with their family’s ceremony like their children’s marriage and all…once these things get done…they become free like anything….that’s when they think like that the god has enlightened them with their purpose on the earth…. they will be like my purpose on the earth is to get all the girls married no matter what, they can have dreams about their life or they are excellent at studies. We won’t mind that all… This kind of people exists everywhere, so never try to change them, that will be only a waste of your time. Better avoid this kind of people. PS: I have seen people like this.

Dear society stops seeing a girl as the marriage material.

Yes being surrounded by this kind of circumstances is tough for many girls .whatever the circumstances are “Never ever give up on your dreams, it’s okay to give up on everything to pursue your dreams, but not on your dreams.

people will laugh at your dreams until your dreams become reality. until you start making money out of it. so never mind them.”BELIEVE IN YOURSELF”.

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you may want to be a doctor, engineer, artist, actor, author, director, teacher, whatever the field of interest might be, “focus, determination, patience, commitment, positive mindset and confidence” are the driving forces that will help you to reach your goals. As our Dr.A.P.J. Abdul Kalam sir said, confident and hard -work are the best medicines to kill the diseases of failure…

Always remember “never be the victim of your circumstances”.your dreams, your path to destiny should be your first and foremost priority.

You may feel exhausted sometimes whenever you feel depressed, remember the hard work that you have done so far…it will help you to re-energize. whenever you are in bad situations always remember “THIS TOO SHALL PASS”.
Don’t fight and don’t put all your energy, strength to show that the men and women are equal by doing all the things that men do….because that is where most of the young girls get confused between their goals and discrimination .but put all your energy, strength, your soul to make your own empire. be the QUEEN in your own empire.

There is no point in proving who is better. since everybody is awesome in their own way…never try to prove yourself to others ….but to you…always remember hard-work will never go on vain.

All I want to say is one thing, put your mind, heart, soul, together to work on your dream, think wisely, be positive, never care about the things that have nothing to do with your dreams and goals.clarity is very important. it erases all your confusions. Always have a plan for your work because plans give you clarity. clarity take you closer to success. be clear in mind always…

Education is the biggest helping hand in achieving our goals and dreams. it gives unique strength to girls and women. with education, you can conquer the world. Educating a girl can change the fate of her family. dear parents, Don’t save money for her marriage, invest it for her education. I tell you one thing for sure, saving money for the dowry will not make you like the best or better parents but spending the money for her education will make you like the most responsible and respectable parents in the world because you are not just going to spend the money on something else but on the girl’s education, once she is educated, she is capable of changing the world with her knowledge. when girls are educated their countries become strong and more prosperous.

When talking about chasing dreams, how one can ignore ” MUNIBA MAZARI -THE IRON LADY”… I hope everyone knew her. according to me, she is the living definition of courage, self-confidence, tolerance, passion, hard work, will power etc…etc….

I hope most of you have watched her speech in BBC top 100 influential women across the globe. still, I have shared the link of that video.it is below the photo. That speech will definitely touch your soul and will make you believe in time, miracle and persistence.

See how determined she is…she is confined to a wheelchair, yet her tired less spirit and thirst for success made her soul to stood up and fought for her dreams. This is how one should be determined to accomplish their goals… “SHE IS ONE IN A MILLION”.

She is the author of 8 books. Her book has received worldwide critical acclaim and has been translated into multiple languages including the Korean language.

”THE MYTH THAT WOMEN SHOULDN’T DO CERTAIN WORKS BECAUSE OF THE FACT “SHE” IS ONLY PERPETUATED BY WOMEN WHO FEAR WORK AND MEN WHO FEAR WOMEN”. Women can do anything and everything.

See these strong women, what made them follow their dreams? what made them hold the string of hope very tightly and not to give up? it’s all because they love their’s dreams unconditionally, they believe themselves undoubtedly, their dedication towards work, their commitment, thirst for success. they know there is no other feeling in the world is the greatest of the greatest other than the feeling of success and being a successful woman. REMEMBER “DIAMONDS AREN’T GIRLS BEST FRIEND BUT FREEDOM IS…

Never get influenced by your circumstances. Work hard and sometimes work smart to reach your goals. Be like an eagle when it’s about your dreams. I remember one quote said by Dr A.P.J. Abdul Kalam sir,” All birds find shelter during rain. But Eagle avoids rain by flying above the clouds. problems are common, but the attitude makes the difference”. when problems come, always see that in multiple angles, you will get a solution.

This is my request to all the parents out there, stop worrying about what could go wrong and start thinking of what could go right.

Once again A very happy women’s day to all the women out there. I hope you all like it. I am very excited to hear from you all. if you like this post please do share and comment.thank you

️Be proud to be a woman and be proud of who you are….

 – Keerthana(kiki)